Whomp, whomp, whomp…
That is the sound of the rotors turning on a “helicopter parent.” You have them in your ministry and frankly they can drive you crazy. The “whomp” “whomp” of their questions can begin to sound like the drone of the teacher from Charlie Brown’s classroom. You avoid them in the church halls by dashing into the bathroom. As a matter of fact, you are familiar with all the mop closets as well. When they finally corner you, facing them can remind you of an interrogation scene from an old detective drama. The bright light of the inquisitor is in your face and you cannot escape until you tell the truth! Their questions are legion…
- What is the content of your bible studies?
- Do you have a scope and sequence for your curriculum?
- What are you doing in August of 2016?
- What time does the event begin and end?
- What are the youth eating?
- Are you familiar with my child’s allergies?
- Who are your leaders and how are they chosen?
- Do all the children wear seatbelts?
- Do you have a first aid kit?
- Do they need their Bibles?
- Will you make sure my son wears sunscreen?
- Can you hold on to their Epi-pen, inhaler and Benadryl?
- Will an adult be with them at all times?
Exasperating really, but why? Hang on to your chair and read this next line slowly…
The inquisition might be taking place because of something YOU did or did not do in the past.
Sorry about the wakeup call, but when we love each other sometimes we have to tell the truth.
In a similar but unfair manner, some of you might be living in the wake of an irresponsible youth pastor who soured parents toward the position of youth pastor itself. That is especially frustrating, but there is a way to overcome the fears and anxieties of the helicopter parent.
Be a responsible communicator.
Believe it or not, you can anticipate questions and communicate in wide swaths and with laser beam focus as well.
Most of us got in the ministry because we felt God calling us to love and serve his children. Our big hearts, though helpful, did not prepare us for the responsibilities of attending to full spectrum of the spiritual, emotional and physical well-being of other people’s children. That is why your ministry partnership with parents is paramount.
Look over the list of questions above again. Are these questions really unreasonable? Are they really?
I still remember the first time I sent my child off for a three-day field trip without me. Guess what? I asked most of the questions above plus, “Were the chaperones background checked?” I received a lot of stares for that one, but you know what? I didn’t care because I wanted my child protected and provided for by the chaperones in the same manner I would have cared for him.
Did that make me a programmatic consumer? No. It is just what a good parent does.
Being a responsible communicator is not easy. We can coach you to do that as well as help you know what you are doing in August of 2016! Contact us and we will help you turn some of your biggest ministry adversaries into your biggest ministry allies.
You CAN enjoy walking down the halls of your church again… and you can spend less time in the bathroom as well!